Friday, November 7, 2014

What's in Your Heart - Greed or Gratitude?


Do you believe our society is greedier today that it was twenty years ago? Ten years ago? Five years ago? I can only imagine you’re nodding affirmatively. I agree with you.  

I wonder if it’s because we’ve been esteeming ourselves rather than esteeming others. We’ve been listening to those who told us to love ourselves so the world will love us. But if everyone is busy loving themselves, then who’s loving others?

The capacity to put the needs of others ahead of our wants cannot be nurtured in a culture that sends a message of entitlement running through our veins. No wonder our hearts have turned cold.

One of my favorite exercises to test the warmth of high school students’ hearts is to propose the following scenario:

“Last week someone made your all-time favorite cookies. I don’t mean slice-and-bake or add-water-to-the-mix cookies. I mean, real homemade cookies.”

I continue, “A friend comes by to see you. There are only two cookies left on the plate…a nice, big cookie and a small cookie that must have been the last bit of dough. Your friend is eyeing those cookies. What will you do? Will you offer your friend the big cookie or the little cookie?”

Here are a few of their responses:       
  •    “I’d give ‘em the little cookie, of course."
  •      “I don’t have to give ‘em a cookie. They both belong to me.
  •    “I’d give ‘em the little cookie, so they know who’s boss.
  •    “On a good day I might break them both in half and make things equal.
  •      “I know you want me to say that I’d give ‘em the big cookie, but hey, I gotta’ take care of myself first.”

So, are you grateful for what comes your way? Are you as greedy as a tenth grader?


What’s in your heart?


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